ACTIVE LISTENING

Listening is very important to avoid the kind of problems that prevent the message from being understood. Active listening can help avoid conflict.Active listening is a way of listening and responding to another person that improves mutual understanding. This technique is a structured form of listening and responding that focuses the attention on the speaker. The listener must pay attention to attend to the speaker fully,then repeats what he or she has said in our own words.

Furthermore,active listening tends to open people up, to get them to say more.This can help to make relationships become stronger.When somebody are in conflict,he or she often contradict each other. The listener are honoring the other person. So,this can build trust with them.

Active listening will make studying later so much easier.In conclusion,"Active Listening" skills play a substantial role in diffusing tension between people, and fostering intimacy instead.

LOLITA FASHION

Lolita fashion is likely to start on 1970’s. It is a fashion subculture in Japan that have influenced from the Victorian’s costume and also from the Rococo period. Lolita has made this fashion become more unique by adding gothic and the original elements to the look. The Lolita fashion has evolved itself into many different sub styles and becoming devoted subculture in Japan and all around the world too. There are four types of Lolita fashion that are famous in the Japan.

GOTHIC LOLITA

The Gothic Lolita or commonly known as “goth-loli” in Japan is the mixture of gothic and the Lolita fashion. Gothic Lolita becomes fame after the influence of the famous band of the Japan that is Visual Kei. The gothic style has been evolved in the Lolita fashion by the use of the darker makeup. Red lipstick and smoky or neatly defined eyes that usually created using eyeliner are the typical styles. The costume of the Goth Lolita fashion is usually combination of black and white color. The costume often with black and white lace and typically decorated with ribbons and lace trims. Their skirts are knee lengths and may have some decoration to add volume.

SWEET LOLITA

Next is the Sweet Lolita (amaloli). It is heavily influenced by the Rococo styles as well as the Victorian and the Edwardian clothing. The Sweet Lolita is more focusing on the child-like aspects and they use child fantasy themes in their design. To maintain their childlike faces, the sweet Lolita use light color and natural pastels in their makeup color schemes. Pink and white are the main color for their costumes with lots of frills and lace. The Sweet Lolita will also carry teddy bears, parasols and other things to increase their cuteness.

CLASSIC LOLITA

Lastly, the Classic Lolita or commonly known as the traditional Lolita among the all Lolita’s. These Classic Lolita is more mature and there are more focusing on the Baroque, Regency, and Rocaille styles. The colors and the patterns use in the Classic Lolita are between the gothic and Sweet Lolita. They are not too gothic and not too sweet. Their makeups are more muted version than Sweet Lolita with an emphasis placed on the natural coloring. Unlike other Lolita’s costumes, the Classic Lolita still stick to the basic of the Lolita fashion. Many of the Classic Lolita skirt have an A-lines shape instead of the normal bell shape. Empire waists are also added in the costumes to add the maturity of the Classis Lolita.

Story of Lolita; The Abusing Father

I'm closer to home

as I hear him shout

I see the door open

and he walks out

he pulls me in the house

and chucks me to the floor

his can hits my head

"what you crying about baby"

"you'll be fine"

I run to my room

and I feel his feet stamp

he opens my door

i can see it in his face

he picks me up

and throws me about the place

i can't take this no more

somebody help me

Help me to stop him

please help me

stop him, stop him

from hurting me.....

SUICIDE AND DEPRESSION!!

Suicide is known as when someone tries to take their own life because of certain problem such as depression. It can be direct or indirect action. Depression always link with suicide action. Depression is emotional feeling that can’t be control by someone that makes them to lose their mentality which it finally ends up with suicide. Around the world, everyday has suicidal cases. It also happened in Malaysia.

In Malaysia, the rate of people commit suicide is increasing year by year. The three main races in Malaysia that make a percentage of suicidal cases are Malays, Chinese, and Indian. Indian people make up the highest percentage of the chart with 43% of case; follow by the Chinese people with 34% and 23% for the Malays. The main reason of their suicidal are commonly related with the depression. Such as family problem, financial, burden of study and relationship problem.

Each of the races has they own common way to commit suicide. For the Indians, they commit suicide by drinking poison. While for the Chinese they more like to hanging themselves and jumping from the higher building for the Malays. The ages for this people to commit suicide are usually among 16-45 years old. Mostly the teenagers commit suicide because of burden from study and family problem. But the most suicide cases involves the teenagers are about relationships. While for the adults, they are commonly related to the financial such as shark loans and stress from the job, also family problem. Besides the teenagers and adults, the golden ages also include in committing suicide. This is because of they find out they are suffers from illness that cannot be cured.

Government has made many programs that include in avoiding suicidal among our society. For the depress person they can seek help from the psychiatrics or share they problem with their closed friend or family before taking any direct action. In a nutshell, suicide is not a way for us to solve our problem. In all religious, suicide is not allowed so we should always remember our belief in our faith.